Posts tagged ‘Family’

August 3, 2011

Roll Call: Some Advice For Parents

by MullOverThis
Yesterday, I listened to a radio program with a child psychologist as a guest.  I’m not even sure of the program name, host or guest psychologist identifications, but did pay attention to the discussion. I have some girlfriends who have been inflicted with New Mama disease and a recurring double ear infection.  Since I had unofficially diagnosed them beforehand, I thought sharing the following would be beneficial.
Here are the bare-boned discussion points:
1.  Women (mothers) tend to presume the greatest role in early parenting, so nurturing children  almost becomes the mother’s identity.  This is a no-no.  Women often feel as if fathers (men) aren’t as concerned.  But because fathers don’t spend the majority of their day parenting, they don’t transition into another identity, stereotypically.  Mothers or caretakers should be careful of this, because:
a.  While children are growing, a mother’s or primary caretaker’s true identity may be lost.  And when the children are grown, mothers  tend to  expect children to compensate them for their lost identities by expecting too much of their children, when mothers should never have allowed their children to become their identity.
b.  While children are still young, this cross identity becomes problematic within all types of friendships/relationships.  For example, a new mom out to lunch with girlfriends deems the conversation not centered around child-rearing, care,
or children  as “boring”.  New mom finds it difficult to relate to anything outside of her new-found identity.
c.  Over-saturation of this leads to adopting the language and mind of the child.  For example, the new mom at the dinner table with other adults gears the communicable language towards a child, “Excuse me, Mommy will be right back, I’ve got to go potty.”
2.  All of this kind of stuff leads to raising self-centered, self-entitlement children.  Children are born into a family, and the family doesn’t revolve around-although it must adjust to the needs and presence of-a child.
3.  When a parent feels as if a child should be  occupied every single minute s/he is awake, the parent raises self-engrossed individuals who usually are high-stressors when they get older.  When this type of child is age 5/6, the child will be bored every five minutes, because s/he never learned how to sit, be content, and be preoccupied without being entertained.  If a child does not learn how to be content when nothing is moving or surrounding him/her, that child develops an, “I’m bored, me, me, me,” mentality and always has to have something, or else he has issues.
4.  When a child is reared with too many things, when that individual grows up and is unable to maintain the lifestyle, or the parent/s can’t maintain the lifestyle while the child grows up, that child won’t know how to function because s/he will likely be self-entitled to things.  Children should never think they will always have what they want.
5.  The home is not a hotel.  At a hotel, a maid is on duty.  At home, children should be taught the value of having a home and participate in the upkeep of the home to learn responsibility.  A child shouldn’t feel the pressure of maintaining a home because children are supposed to be secure.  Yet, a proper balance requires children to know that the entire run of the house is not theirs, either.  Children must learn to pick things up, stop touching, etc.
6.  Children are not cute when they behave badly.  They must be taught what is good and what is bad, and their feelings don’t matter when they  do bad things.  Otherwise, you create individuals who will grow up to override what is wrong and value their own feelings.  Children should be corrected and know the clear differences between right and wrong.
7.  Parents should not try to make children overachievers.  Parents often project their own standards and desires  onto  children.  A parent may want to find a pre-school program with competitive math programs.  The psychologist said these types of parents are lunatics. Children need time to just be children and be in social environments which teach them how to function well with other children.  They should not be introduced to competition and pressure at such a young age.
8.  Finally, mothers and fathers shouldn’t feel bad about their parenting skills.  They should learn about how to raise good people with as much effort as parents try to learn what is necessary to be competitive in the marketplace to keep their jobs.  Parenting requires continual learning.
All parents may not agree with these particular ideals when parenting.  Yet, the advisory exists to at the very least, challenge parents to consciously define their own values, standards and review how well their child/children actually responds to such standards.
Mulloverthis.
May 20, 2011

Arnold Schwarzenegger, The Pimpstress & The Other Child

by MullOverThis

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First of all, we can’t call the other child a “love” child because this child may not be one conceived in love.  Arnold may not have cared about his paramour.  Clearly, she was a fling, but we don’t know that she or his son had a significant place in his heart and life.

What is clear is that the former California governor’s cheating has exposed his wife and entire family to all the rigormoroll in which the pesky press and onlookers love to exacerbate: these types of Osama-is -old-news-and-we-need-something-else-to-obsess-over situations.

Mulloverthis notes a few things since Arnold is the current goose gone wild:

1.  At least the man provided for his child and baby mama.

2.  Refer to number one, above, when feasting on a picture of Arnold’s no-conscience pimpstress.  She obviously took the concept of on the job training out of context, and to another level.

3.  This thingy quells all fairytales that busted women can’t  get a rich, handsome, famous actor and politician for a man, since this homeslice pulled Arnold.  Addendum: … at least when his Democratic royalty wife isn’t around.  Otherwise, back to sweeping the floors and pretend that child isn’t his.

Mulloverthis:  NO ONE involved in this love triangle won.  Shriver should be disappointed because her husband never realized who she really is, or appreciated her value  or his own worth, to risk their lives by Arnold  bumping a housekeeper, unprotected.  Arnold is another man who let his silly lust and male bravado potentially ruin his family and political life.  The mistress is a silly woman who pimped herself as the less than woman that she really is.

My hope is that the resultant child will override the monstrous heap of mess his selfish parents created when they created him and develop a great relationship with his father and other siblings.   The young boy didn’t ask for any of this, and he shouldn’t have to endure any scrutiny for his existence, either.

Mulloverthis.

July 16, 2009

Sixty-nine Year Old Dies and Leaves Orphaned Twins

by MullOverThis

There are a number of isolated cases of older women having babies as “seasoned” senior citizens.

So, now one dies and leaves her twins without a mother or father, having conceived them through donated eggs, a sperm donor and the trusty In Vitro fertilization process. Reputedly, after giving birth, the woman developed cancer.

In a nutshell, a mother dies of cancer. Yet, with the kind of journalism we see today, the dialogue leading to the bottom line misses the quintessence of the matter:   Her age had nothing to do with it.

http://news.aol.com/article/oldest-mom-dies/572373?icid=main|main|dl1|link3|http%3A%2F%2Fnews.aol.com%2Farticle%2Foldest-mom-dies%2F572373

June 24, 2009

66 Year Old Gives Birth

by MullOverThis

The oldest reported British woman to give birth, Elizabeth Adeney, is a brand new mom thanks to In Vitro fertilization. Of course, the new mom has not only the joy of her first child to look forward to, but also the criticisms of yick yackers who feel she is monsterously selfish for having a child at her “old” age.

Although I do not generally think that child-bearing is ideal at 66, again, I ask as I often do, “Who cares?” Adeney has only joined the ranks of an increasing number of senior citizens who raise babies that are their grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. Her baby raising is purposed and intentional, not a result of premature death in the family, or some sort of parental neglect. People Adeney’s age get custody and are entrusted to raise children everyday, and do so heroically.

So who are her critics? Is it the same monsterously selfish people who advocate abortion for convenience? Or, the population of classless candidates-both male and female-who contribute to the “who’s my baby’s daddy” talk show conundrum. Thank God for DNA testing, or so many everyday people who live impulsive hedonistic lives would never know who fathered a child. Certainly, Adeney’s critics cannot be amongst the population of people with terminally ill diseases in advanced stages, such as AIDS, that knowingly bear children with slight chances they will probably not be around to raise them, and often bring them into this world infected (although babies can receive treatment to reverse HIV status). How about all of our babies born on drugs or to mothers who drink and smoke? The wonderful people who have children for complying with the status quo with a firm plan for nannies, boarding schools and plenty of photo ops in-between need not register any critques. Their time would be better spent scheduling an appointment to laugh with their own children. There are certainly too many people in this world that are blaring self-advertisements for irresponsible parents to make this woman a guinea pig.

The only real concern is whether this senior citizen is capable of providing a loving, safe, healthy, reliable home for a baby and in good enough health to do so. Adeney just may outlive some of the young everything-goes, to hell with any type of morality people and smile at this child’s college graduation. She just may give this child the kind of devotion, attention and guidance that will produce a good sound human being. At least we can hope. This of course, can only take place if the powers that be and the hipsters don’t cause the world to end before then.

http://abcnews.go.com/International/story?id=7612856&page=1

MULLOVERTHIS.

April 20, 2009

CHRISTIANPHOBIA IS ON THE RISE

by MullOverThis

Not really.  I don’t believe atheists, agnostics, and people of “spiritual paths” other than Christianity are necessarily fearful of Christians.  But since this “homophobia” inflammatory jargon designed to disengage legitimate opposition to the homosexual/gay agenda is now politically correct, I thought the use of the phobia tactic is apropos solely  for illustrative purposes.

The truth is many homosexuals/gays-and those who are simply perceived to be homosexual–have been beaten, persecuted, marred, murdered and discriminated against simply because they are believed to be  homosexuals.  This denigration of humanity is never acceptable.  We need not discuss the historical and current persecution of Jews, Christians, and African-Americans through mass genocide and the like.  The annals of utter hatred against these classes of people cannot be justifiably encapsulated in one blog post.

Yet, the disdain and intolerance of the homosexual lifestyle and agenda is met with a nifty  “phobia” marking. The connotation is as if the logical one who does not agree suffers from some unreasonable fear of what is otherwise simple or normal.   I think it is safe to say, most people do not have “fear” of homosexuals or homosexuality.  The disapproval, rejection and opposition to a thing are not necessarily synonymous with “fear”.  I can’t stand onion rings.  My personal preference is to never have onion rings.  My failure to order onion rings, or efforts to vote them off of the fast food menu does not mean I fear them.  I have made a valuation and judgment that they are not desirable and are not good, although many people may prefer and love onion rings.  My personal beliefs regarding homosexuality are clear:  it is not a desirable lifestyle.  I’m not scared, nor am I ignorant.  I just don’t agree.

My belief system is firmly rooted in my faith and commitment to Christianity.  Need I be “converted” to another point of reason by one whose belief system is rooted in self by way of intellect, education, philosophical affinity or life achievement?  To another woman’s valuations based upon impulse and present life goals and experiences?  To another person’s values because he is good?  To the current trend of thought because it is increasingly common?  The opinionated Christian—not all of us are this involved—has her right to reason to a final resolve just like the non-Christian. We do not enjoy blanket classifications about how we live and respond to the questions of life any more than anyone else.  Our opinions and right to be involved in the political process is no less weighty because we serve the True and Living God.  We need not cow-tow to those who wake up and go to bed and the world should be as s/he thinks based upon the breadth of knowledge s/he has thusly consumed, or those who heighten the import of the human experience.

There is no civil system of government where the law is not largely composed of moral codes.  However a man identifies his own beliefs and morality, and that system of government employs that man’s belief, it is what it is.  Christians have every right, PARTICULARLY SINCE THE UNITED STATES IS FOUNDED UPON JUDEO-CHRISTIAN PRINCIPLES, to stand up for what we believe and what we do not believe.  A crucial tenet of the faith is that God is the Creator and loves all men.  Yet all will not believe what we believe.  We are to share our faith because the relationship with God and benefits of being in fellowship with God are available to everyone.  We are prepared to encounter those who do as we often do to other belief systems:  REJECT the faith. We must simply keep on believing and keep on living.  So then, are we dealing with Christianphobia when some atheists, agnostics, and people of other religions do not accept and conform, form interest groups, create and produce programming released through various media outlets to promote their beliefs, lobby for their beliefs to be encoded as statutory rights, file zillions of frivolous lawsuits, actively discriminate against Christians, endanger the lives of Christians, and fight to thwart the values of Christianity because what they believe should be?

 

MULLOVERTHIS.

Note:  Not all Christians share this view. The emphasis of the Christian message is that we have all been born in sin, shaped in iniquity, and have the grace of a loving, merciful God to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

April 13, 2009

IT’S A SCARY DAY WHEN RUSH MAKES SENSE

by MullOverThis

I’m a bit late on this one.  However, I’ve got to self-evaluate when mulloverthis is in sync with Rush Limbaugh.

I’m glad President Obama has white teeth, a great smile, a wonderful family and the best-dressed wife since Jackie O.  The rock-star qualities and its’ worth stop right about there.  I too, hope that our dear President does not succeed on a number of his so-called commitments.  Principally, his avid support of abortion is a no-no.  I hope all of his endeavors to secure the right to kill babies at will, and all of the other inflammatory emotional ploys to justify fetus, embryo, and/or baby killing goes down the drain.  Although it is highly unlikely, because too many people that matter support abortion, I will still hope and pray.

So kudos to the Bishops at Notre Dame who dared to challenge the worthiness of an abortion rights supporter for a graduation speaker.  Thank God some people of faith still have enough gumption to draw the line.  The last thing people of faith should be smiling and waving at is anyone who helps stop life. 

Mulloverthis.

July 24, 2008

100 Years to Life for Rape

by MullOverThis

An African American man was sentenced to 100 years to life for two hours of criminal conduct. These are the types of sentences that are completely insane based upon equitable lines, but sure do make me sleep better at night.

Mr. Christopher Pearce, 29, of Roosevelt, Long Island, took an expensive trip to the bank when he broke into his victim’s home and forced her to go to two different ATM locations and withdraw $600 in cash, then forced her to another location and raped her, then forced her to drive back to her home.   Mr. Pearce put robbery, burglary, kidnapping, criminal sexual act, and rape charges in his criminal shopping cart.  He checked out in Nassau County, Long Island and he must pay the piper with a life sentence.

I will not be protesting this decision, just praying that Mr. Pearce will be productive and find meaning to life behind prison walls and gets the help he needs. 

 

http://www.nassaucountyny.gov/agencies/DA/NewsReleases/2008/050208pearce.html

http://www.newsday.com/news/local/nassau/ny-lirape0724,0,5677516.story

http://www.wnbc.com/topic/Christopher+Pearce/index.html

http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/nationworld/chi-dna-rape-chargejul19,0,7938319.story

Compare:

http://www.baltimoresun.com/topic/hc-6townreview0720.artjul20,0,5777593.story

http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/ktla-doctor-rape,0,7160553.story

May 1, 2008

Juanita Bynum on Divorce Court

by MullOverThis

In case you were wondering what her appearance was all about, check out the clips.

I have never seen divorce court spend so much air-time highlighting any special guests and their own lifestyles or issues.  So, this appearance is probably aimed at increasing the show’s ratings.

Whether or not Bynum’s appearance served ministerial purpose is really a question that only those who she spent time with can answer.  Nonetheless, I’m sure this won’t stop the philosophizers from philosphizing and waking up again tomorrow, having not demonstrated notable service outside of their own needs or interests to anyone else who has been substantially impacted by their lives.  Meanwhile, again Bynum has used her personal life experience to provide insight for someone else.

After being stomped by an unrepentant husband who still denies any real wrongdoing, it is easy for Bynum to identify with and tell another woman to love oneself enough to stop the domestic abuse before it cannot be curtailed.

 

March 27, 2008

A MAN WITH A BUN IN THE OVEN?

by MullOverThis

If you don’t know by now, this is not the politically correct blog. 

Thomas Beatie, allegedly a  transgender he-she, is a legal man after having had a sex change (kept her reproductive organs).   Mr./Mrs. is now married to a woman and pregnant.  Another human being who felt trapped as a woman, had to convert her being to be identified as a man.  This feeling is completely distinct from a woman just staying female and living as a lesbian with another woman.  Transgenders have to have the proper sexual identity, which is completely different from the sexual acts or preferences.  So now the former female who now lives as a man has a swelling belly and is reportedly a man having a baby. 

Newsworthiness:  a woman thinks that adding and taking away organs and flooding her body with hormones can change her sex.  The rest of the world needs to maintain enough sense to know that male human beings-men-cannot have babies.  So while this he-she is giving birth from a female womb that she was born with, whether her thought processes allow her to acknowledge the fact that she is still a woman or not, when they cut open the womb and deliver the baby, I hope the proof cries real loud. 

Meanwhile, I’ll be praying that those who choose to believe the Word of God do not fall prey to this  and other influences where everyone loves the “anything goes” lifestyles.  We live in a world where as long as no one is hurting anyone, everyone can live any way they choose to live, even when it defies how God made them.  Those who believe and are awaiting the return of the Lord Jesus Christ must be watchful, because there are not too many more lines that can be crossed or blurred with legitimizing all of the demonic strongholds that mankind has embraced with a picture and a smile.   Jesus loves all of His creation.  Everything God created He loves.  Christians draw by love, but we also have a responsibility to lead others to knowing the fulness of Christ.  That includes what Christ hates and does not accept according to the Word of God.  Sin will cause God to separate Himself from what He loves.

Transgenders are a protected class according to the law.  But when it is all said and done, there is a higher law.  Mulloverthis.

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=4526582&page=1

http://www.allheadlinenews.com/articles/7010447133

February 4, 2008

WHERE’S THE BEEF BARACK?

by MullOverThis

I JUST VISITED BARACK OBAMA’S OFFICIAL CAMPAIGN WEBSITE.  NOTICEABLY ABSENT FROM WHERE HE STANDS ON THE ISSUES IS ABORTION, GUN CONTROL AND LGBT AGENDA.  THE SITE HAS A WELCOME FEEL, IS EASY TO TUNNEL THROUGH, AND MARKETS OBAMA WELL.  THE QUESTION REMAINS,

 

“WHERE IS THE BEEF, BARACK?” 

 

HIS ECONOMIC PLAN IS INCREDULOUS IN LIGHT OF THE ERA OF CHANGE WE ARE TO ANTICIPATE.  HELEN KELLER KNOWS WE NEED TAX CUTS, MORTGAGE INDUSTRY FRAUD REGULATED, INCREASED EMPLOYMENT RATES, AND SO FORTH.   TO BRING CLARITY, EVERY ISSUE OUTLINED IS NON-SPECIFIC AND ATYPICAL OF A GLORIFIED COLLEGIATE ASSIGNMENT ON HOW TO IMPROVE OUR NATION’S (INSERT AN ISSUE HERE).   

 

“WHAT HAS BARACK OBAMA DONE TO BRING CHANGE SO FAR?”

 

“WHAT IS BARACK OBAMA GOING TO DO TO RESTORE THE ECONOMY, END THE WAR AND MAINTAIN SECURITY WITHIN OUR BORDERS, BRING THIS NATION BACK TO GOD, FIGHT THE SPREAD OF AIDS, DEAL WITH DRUG TRAFFICKING, AND THE LIST GOES ON?”

 

OBAMA’S CLAIM TO HAVE BEEN INNOVATIVE IN CONGRESS THUS FAR TO CREATE BI-PARTISAN UNITY IS ALSO A JOKE.  MAYBE HE WILL BE ABLE TO ACCOMPLISH THIS WHEN HE HAS THE HIGH SEAT, BUT HIS CLAIM AND HISTORY OF DOING SO IS QUESTIONABLE.  JUST REVIEW HIS SUPPORT AND CONVENTIONAL DEALINGS WITH JOHN KERRY. 

WHATEVER YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IN THE NEXT PRESIDENT, UNDERSTAND THAT THIS CHANGE FLUFF IS A DIVERSIONARY MARKETING STRATEGY FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS DONE NOTHING DISTINGUISHABLE FROM THE NORMAL POLITICAL MACHINE THAT HE IS VERY WELL A PART OF.  DURING AN INTERVIEW WITH CHRISTIANITY TODAY MAGAZINE, WHEN ASKED IF HE WAS FOR ABORTION, OBAMA REPLIED, “I DON’T KNOW ANYONE WHO IS FOR ABORTION.”  HE PROCEEDED TO REVEAL THAT ABORTIONS RATES SHOULD DECLINE AND DID THE VERY DOUBLE-TALKING THAT HE SAYS HE WANTS TO CHANGE.  OBAMA DOES NOT KNOW ANYONE WHO IS FOR ABORTION.  THE NEXT POTENTIAL PRESIDENT IS UNAWARE OF MILLIONS OF PRO-LIFERS AND ABORTION RIGHTS ACTIVISTS.  OBAMA DID NOT ANSWER THE QUESTION.  OBAMA DID NOT WANT TO ALIENATE A CHRISTIAN AUDIENCE, WHICH IS LARGELY AGAINST ABORTION.  IS THIS POLITICIAN’S RIGAMAROLE ANY DIFFERENT THAN ANYONE ELSE’S?

 

IF WE ARE SO CAUGHT UP WITH THE AGENT OF CHANGE AND NEVER GET CONCRETE VISION FROM THE NEXT POTENTIAL PRESIDENT, WE WILL HAVE NOTHING  TO WHICH WE MAY  HOLD HIM ACCOUNTABLE.